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The slow and uncomfortable change that sadly leaves the enjoyment of the past behind
I’m currently finding myself struggling to come to terms with the change that just continues to need to happen since losing Pete. It...
lizmecham
Jan 14, 20216 min read
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Christmas: the best and worst of it all
I am current sitting on a hill. With a glass of wine. Having dumped a crying child under a tree where her father's ashes are spread to...
lizmecham
Dec 28, 20204 min read
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Moving house ... how I sort of had it under control ... thanks to the villagers
So ... we have moved house. It was all of the things I thought it would be ... and some. If I thought I had got my head around moving and...
lizmecham
Dec 15, 20205 min read
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Sentimental holdings
This photo of three empty wine bottles is probably representative of my sentimental hoarding tendencies. Each of these bottles is...
lizmecham
Dec 5, 20203 min read
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Other people are finding moving us hard, too
I knew sorting through stuff and moving would be hard for me. I’ve probably underestimated how hard it is for other people. Our friends...
lizmecham
Nov 14, 20203 min read
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Books, books and more books
We have so.many.books. in our house. So many of those books bring back so.many.memories. We read a book to the kids every night from when...
lizmecham
Nov 14, 20202 min read
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Why DID we keep that? And other questions about what to take when moving without a person?
Oh moving... it’s bad and hard at the best of times. We seemed to move a lot in the last 20 years within towns and around states. In the...
lizmecham
Nov 8, 20205 min read
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It's not all bad... I need to remember that
I feel sometimes that all I seem to do when I purge my brain out loud is lament how hard everything is. How bad it all seems. How hard I...
lizmecham
Oct 29, 20206 min read
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How do you quantify missing someone?
How do you put a quantifiable measurement around missing someone? Like - how can you explain just how much you miss them. Or what it's...
lizmecham
Oct 21, 20203 min read
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And then out of the blue ... BAM!
I’d love to put some context around why I spent the afternoon crying in gutteral sobs on my bed... hyperventilating and desperately and...
lizmecham
Oct 15, 20206 min read
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Inspirational things are perplexing
For something that doesn't seem to have a rule book, there is a lot of stuff out in the grief sphere that suggests what you should be...
lizmecham
Oct 14, 20206 min read
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The deep ache of aloneness
I’ve discovered there is a particular type of loneliness that comes with widowing. It’s not necessarily an ‘I don’t want to be alone’...
lizmecham
Sep 16, 20206 min read
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The house of the father
I have adulted my way through a fraught week or 10 days. And I have come out the other end smiling. Laughing, in fact. It probably...
lizmecham
Sep 15, 20205 min read
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Riding the rollercoaster ... with the villagers in tow
The last few weeks have been a challenging old roller coaster of ups and downs. I thought I was becoming adept at managing things and...
lizmecham
Sep 2, 20206 min read
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Musings of Year Two, Covid and bloody Father’s Day coming around again...
Year Two seems harder than Year One and I’ve been trying to work out why. People are very quick to say it’s ‘because people have...
lizmecham
Aug 24, 20205 min read
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The curse of the giant cold sore
I have the most frustrating reaction to stressful, anxious, highly emotional, over tired situations ... cold sores. Well, cold sore -...
lizmecham
Aug 4, 20204 min read
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The giant cat is now gold plated
The fact we own a giant cat that is Pete’s legacy cat means that all bets are off when it comes to paying to make sure it stays healthy....
lizmecham
Aug 4, 20206 min read
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18 months later...
Today marks 18 months since we lost Pete. It’s a weird day to think about. Every Sunday afternoon at about 4.26 I take a moment to...
lizmecham
Jul 20, 20204 min read
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A podcast less traumatic
So I recorded a podcast about widowing with Steph from Motherland Australia recently. It’s much less about the actual day that Pete died...
lizmecham
Jul 12, 20201 min read
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The endless questions of trying to do the ‘right’ thing
I do a ridiculous amount of worrying since becoming a widow about ‘The Right Thing’ For the most part that is about the kids. Am I...
lizmecham
Jul 6, 20205 min read
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