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Loads of ashes and how not everyone is ok with that
One of the big advantages to having Pete cremated was that if anything happened to the significant pieces of jewellery, there would be...
lizmecham
Nov 19, 20193 min read


There is a lot of anger in widow land ... but I’m not angry
I have fallen down a few rabbit holes on Instagram recently following hastags relating to widows. I have no idea when and how it started....
lizmecham
Nov 11, 20197 min read


Doing nothing actually sucks
We have nothing on, and no where to be - except home and our regular extra curricular activities - for 4 weeks. Finally having a few...
lizmecham
Oct 27, 20194 min read


The animals are turning 1...
The animals who joined our family in January this year are turning one. And so that means we’ve almost negotiated a year of not having...
lizmecham
Oct 27, 20193 min read


The things that are hard and how photos lie
There are so many things that are hard to do now - and not all of them I was expecting. But the thing is, some of the hardest things...
lizmecham
Oct 13, 20194 min read


A decade of a Little Man in the house
This guy turns 10 today. Our Ute Muster baby who has this appropriately inappropriate story about his 3-week-early arrival that includes...
lizmecham
Oct 4, 20193 min read


Letting go of the moving parts is hard work
It’s been 8 months since we lost Pete and I’ve been trying to get control of our world. And failing. I have been trying everything to...
lizmecham
Sep 20, 20195 min read


How sharing Pete means we get to remember what a good person he was to more than us
Since Pete has died, he has received recognition like I never could have imagined. I am constantly blown away by how much people thought...
lizmecham
Sep 20, 20193 min read


Winning premierships without the #1 fan
Last weekend everyone in our house lined up for a hockey grand final. It was Pete’s perfect supporter scenario and he wasn’t here to see...
lizmecham
Sep 19, 20194 min read


Is an emotional hangover harder than an alcoholic one?
While we got through Father's Day last weekend seemingly all intact, the reality is, that on Monday morning, we all woke up with an...
lizmecham
Sep 4, 20193 min read


Father’s Day without Pete
In my head I have a mental count of all the hard things we have coming up that I know will be difficult without Pete because they are...
lizmecham
Sep 1, 20194 min read
The comforts of home
Last weekend I went home to my home town and attended the first event in that town since Pete died. I had spent a lot of time completely...
lizmecham
Aug 29, 20192 min read
🦄 Unicorn hunting, Tinder and the odd things you miss
One of the things I wasn’t expecting about widowing is some of the things people say ... and some of the things I would miss. Most...
lizmecham
Aug 8, 20194 min read


What I’ve learned in 6 months of widowing
Today marks 6 months since Pete died. I cannot get my head around the fact it has been half a year. How can it be half a year already?...
lizmecham
Jul 20, 20195 min read


Another birthday ... the firsts just keep on coming
We now officially have a teenager in the house. And her Dad isn’t here to celebrate with her. And she has cried a lot about that. Our...
lizmecham
Jul 19, 20192 min read


When steak sends you over the edge
The thing about trying to make sure you’ve got everything under control is that when you don’t, sometimes you really don’t. No matter how...
lizmecham
Jul 14, 20194 min read


The party that started it all ... apparently
Nineteen years ago a friend had a birthday party. It was a small affair in this friend’s back yard ... in the middle of winter. As with...
lizmecham
Jun 24, 20193 min read
We are no longer ‘average’
There is a lot of paperwork to sign when someone dies. Like ... A LOT. There is even more when the person who dies doesn’t have a Will....
lizmecham
Jun 23, 20192 min read
So, I got myself a job...
The best thing about the skill set I have is that I can work anywhere. As long as I have a reliable internet connection, for most of the...
lizmecham
Jun 23, 20193 min read
When cuddles just aren’t enough
This week has basically boiled down to one thing - the kids want their Dad back. Tears. Tantrums. Tears. Yelling. Kicking. Tears....
lizmecham
Jun 5, 20192 min read
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